15: Staying Balanced and Remembering the Need for Rest

What makes you happy? Undoubtedly, there would be numerous and varied answers to this question. Aristotle said, “One swallow does not make a summer, neither does one fine day; similarly, one day or brief time of happiness does not make a person entirely happy.” Let’s talk about what it means to be happy.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • After big weekend celebrations for my daughter’s graduation and birthday, I am exhausted!
  • Rest and balance are essential, which is one of the themes of Aristotle’s work, the Nicomachean Ethics, from which the above quote is taken
  • Everyone wants to be happy, but the extremes of life bring much unhappiness
  • Being kind to your body with rest brings happiness
  • Times of insane busy-ness have to be balanced with times of rest
  • It’s OK to plan in times for rest and relaxation
  • Aristotle advocated principles of moderation and balance, not pushing too far in either direction
  • What are the things and who are the people who take your energy from you? (these might be “EGR” people—”extra grace required”)
  • Identify the activities that cost you the most energy each day: “What you give your energy to, you’re giving your life to.”
  • Are you pursuing happiness? (which is not necessarily the same as FUN)
  • This summer, can you allow the time to slow down?  “Live life. Don’t just push through it like a machine.”

 

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Have You Heard the News?

squawking chicken

Last week I heard a disturbing piece of news. A deaf couple was mocked by employees at a Kentucky Fried Chicken drive-through window for their inability to hear. At least that is what their daughter tearfully alleged in a Facebook video that went viral. The video about the KFC experience has been viewed 1.4 million times and picked up by Fox, ABC, and NBC affiliates.

The 59-year-old was with her husband when she said a female employee at the window would not help her communicate her order. “She put her hands on her mouth. I said, ‘Ma’am, sorry, I can’t hear. I need to read your lips. Could you please move it?’ She keeps standing there,” described Cole. She said she ordered again and, to her horror, the young lady walked away and began laughing with another male employee.

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14: Everything You Need You Already Have

“Everything you need, you already have. You are complete right now. You are a whole, total person, not an apprentice person on the way to someplace else. Your completeness must be understood by you and experienced in your thoughts as your own personal reality.” -Beverly Sills, American soprano

My thoughts today are inspired by the graduation this weekend of my youngest daughter from high school and with her Associate Degree from our local community college. Coincidentally, she also turns 18 this weekend, so there are many milestones to celebrate. 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • A story from many years ago about my acting career and Let’s Pretend Circus: we were offered a chance to buy the company for a mere $5000, which we didn’t have. I had forgotten that circumstances had already fallen into place to provide us the money for the down payment. After prayer with my friends at Bible Study, I realized that God had already given us what we needed. I burst through our front door upon arriving home and shouted to my husband, “God wants us to buy a circus!”
  • I had already been given what I needed because God knew what was coming for me
  • Graduation brings much apprehension, anxiety, and the fear of the unknown of what the future holds
  • Most often, we are afraid of the future because WE want to control the outcome
  • To graduates of high school or college: “You’ve already been given everything you need in advance because God knows what is coming. Believe in yourself and trust in God. You’ve already been given what you need.”

13: Finding Your Voice

Do you have a fear of public speaking? It’s a common fear for many people, even though many others–like me–use a speaking platform constantly in their chosen professions. So why does speaking in front of an audience prompt such immobilizing fear? How can it be overcome? Join me as we approach this topic today.

“It took me quite a long time to develop a voice, and now that I have it, I’m not going to be silent.”–Madeleine Albright

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • THE #1 FEAR for most people is the fear of public speaking (even ahead of dying!)
  • The problem with not using your voice is that when you don’t speak up, your opinions, expertise, knowledge, wisdom, compassion, kindness, and curiosity don’t get shared
  • Simply recognizing that using your voice is important doesn’t change the terror that comes with it
  • What can we do? Some people say, “Imagine your audience in their underwear,” or “Look over the tops of their heads.” Some advise to carefully script yourself, to use notes, or memorize your words
  • My advice is to speak from your heart because your words are intrinsically entwined with your heart. “The exact reason that people are afraid of public speaking is because their heart becomes vulnerable.” This is a risk you have to be willing to take!
  • Look at people and see them as humans who hear and understand what you have to say
  • “Stage fright” comes from a focus on self and a fear that your heart will be wounded
  • The best way to practice public speaking is to practice being vulnerable with your heart
  • You have to have complete confidence that they need to hear what you have to say
  • Value your voice and be vulnerable with your heart, then people will feel your genuine care for them
  • “You have so much to share with the world that people need to hear you.”  

Resources:

www.elisahayes.com  Check out my “Freebies” tab for great resources!