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March 1st 2018

Letters to My Daughter imageMarch 1st will forever be an extraordinary day. On this day in 2014, at approximately 8:00 PM Central time, EMTs raced my hemorrhaging body into an emergency room in Wichita, Kansas. I was given less than a 5% chance of living. As one surgeon said, “The only time I’d ever seen that much of the inside of a human body was on a cadaver in medical school.”

Ten days later I opened my eyes, surprised to discover I wasn’t dead. It took a painfully long…and well, just plain painful…battle to arrive at the life I have today. But this isn’t a post about the accident, and you can certainly read about it on my website. This is about one piece of what I want to give back…Letters to My Daughter. Read more

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01: Introducing Letters to My Daughter Podcast

As the great Ruth Bader Ginsberg once said, “My mother told me to be a lady. And for her, that meant to be your own person, be independent.” It’s tough to learn how to be independent and self-assured without some guidance. The role of a mother or a mentor is absolutely important for young women on the rise, so I wanted to create a place for women to teach one another how to be a lady. My name is Elisa Hays, and this podcast is something like a letter to my daughters, and any daughters anywhere.
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4 Steps to Quit Saving Money for the Wrong Reasons

For the last three years I’ve been using my wheelchair as a desk chair in my office. It’s not comfortable, not even a little. I’m practical and it just seemed that having one wheeled chair was enough. I put up with it creating more pain than I already have. Silly, I know, but I’m stubborn. On Saturday I suddenly couldn’t take it anymore. My husband kindly raced off with me to Office Depot to buy a new chair.

The first office chair that we saw of course was the fancy, schmancy (aka overpriced) featured new “executive chair.” I looked at the price tag and flatly said, “Ha! No way would I pay that much for a desk chair!” So I plopped down in another nearby puffy looking chair…and then another…and then another until I had paused my half-amputated bum on every seating solution in the store. None of them solved the problem of my painful posterior. Finally, I reluctantly sat in the fancy chair. “Oh geez!” I exclaimed with exasperation. My husband calmly replied, “We’re buying that chair, aren’t we?”

Have you ever tried to avoid spending money in your business, only to eventually come to the reluctant realization that you were creating more trouble than you solved? Use my office chair story as a lesson to help you avoid creating a bigger pain in the butt in your business. Follow these four steps to quit saving money for the wrong reasons. Read more

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Empathy by Design

“I think like a designer,” I commented to a friend recently. “No,” she answered, “you ARE a designer. “ Hmmm….come to think of it…..

For the last two weeks I’ve obsessed over tiny details of the plans for our new house. A tape measure, 1/4” scale ruler, sharp pencil and an eraser have been my best friends. I didn’t create the house plan, but I’m making it work for our family and my accessibility needs because I use a cane, walker or wheelchair at any given time. We love our current custom house, but the lack of universal design creates a lot of challenges.  Read more

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”FEARLESS”

Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.

Each year I choose one word to be my focus for the year. Typically by the last quarter of the year I already know what my Word of the Year needs to be. For example, 2016 was a brutal year that included the death of my beloved grandfather and a fierce case of shingles. Then in the fourth quarter the year wrapped up with a badly broken right wrist that cost all of independent mobility. By then I knew that my word for 2017 would be FEARLESS. Read more

Give Up Expectations, Receive Love

What Christmas is really all about.

 

In the simplest of terms, the message of Christmas is to Love One Another. Why do we sometimes find this so hard to do?

The answer is just as simple – We want to be in control. Our way, our expectations, our ideas of how things should play out. At least that’s where I get tripped up. Perhaps this rings true for you as well. Read more

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Genuine Stories Create Extraordinary IMPACT

Tell YOUR story

On an ideal day, before starting work I’ll meditate, write in a journal and read a devotional. If feeling really crazy I’ll exercise. It helps to begin the day with solid footing and elevated aspirations.

Yesterday morning I read the Bible verse, “Give your contributions privately. Your Father sees what you do in private. He will reward you.” Matthew‬ ‭6:4‭ Regardless of your beliefs, that wisdom rings especially true in this age of social media and personal branding. Too many people (in my not-so-humble opinion) wear their ‘altruism’ overtly publicly which begs the question: for whom are they doing it? (Someone with proper grammar please tell me if who or whom is correct there.)

Now here I am with a dilemma. Do I keep my experience yesterday private or do I share it publicly because I was profoundly moved? Let’s first go back…. Read more

Lower Holiday Stress just by Breathing

December 1st and up goes our Christmas tree! And so it begins. Although the granddaddy holiday month of December sings peace and goodwill, the shopping malls and highways tell the real truth. You know what I’m talking about. If ever there was a time for practicing centering, mindful meditation it’s now. When you intentionally slow down and focus on one thing at a time, you’ll enjoy the true spirit of the holidays. You’ll also enjoy powerful lessons in stress reduction that can be applied any time.  Read more

The Extraordinary Impact of Gratitude

This time of year, most Americans focus on thankfulness. (Canadians were thankful last month.) Social media abounds with posts touting gratitude, service, and reconciliation. Let’s all come together!

And then January happens…..

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A Strong Funny Bone Can’t Be Broken

On an ordinary sunny afternoon, after an energetic workout at the gym, I tripped at home over a shoe (my shoe) and sprawled face first with outstretched arms onto the tile floor of our kitchen. Ouch! Two broken elbows, a cracked wrist and several strained ligaments later I once again experienced everything changing in an instant. I wasn’t laughing. At first….

Have you ever felt slammed with problems and dependent on others for help? One misstep, just a slight misjudgment, is all it takes to equal disaster. Sometimes it’s not even your misstep, but you’re the one left to deal with the fallout. Then what? Read more