https://elisahays.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/self-pity.jpg 526 790 Elisa https://elisahays.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/04/elisa-hays-empathy-fueled-leadership_red-300x84.png Elisa2018-05-17 00:00:362018-05-20 20:34:5710: Permission to Indulge in a Little Self-Pity
10: Permission to Indulge in a Little Self-Pity
Do you ever feel sorry for yourself? Most of us do at one time or another. We may call it “having a pity party” or self-pity, but it’s something that prompts very different opinions. In today’s show, I’m giving you a little advice about why it’s OK to indulge in self-pity at times.
“Self-pity in its early stage is as snug as a feather mattress; only when it hardens does it become uncomfortable.” –Maya Angelou
What you’ll hear in this episode:
- When was the last time you felt sorry for yourself? After all, it’s a natural human response!
- Sometimes we think that self-pity is bad and wrong in every way
- Why self-pity is perfectly fine at times
- If you say you never have self-pity, then you probably aren’t honest or even human
- “The more you avoid something, the more energy you actually give to it.”
- Why would you want to give an enormous amount of energy to something you don’t want?
- Why it’s OK to admit that sometimes things just suck and you just feel sucky
- Go to the pity party!
- Show up for the appetizers and then leave
- Own your self-pity and give yourself a time limit
- My recent cancer scare and my anger that prompted a “pity party”
- “Have I not been through enough?”
- Why it’s OK to enjoy the “featherbed” for a little while and then go back home
- Feeling guilty about feeling sorry for yourself just makes it worse
- How to cope:
- Have a glass of wine—just one!
- Talk to a trusted friend
- Howard Schultz said, “In life, you can blame a lot of people and you can wallow in self-pity, or you can pick yourself up and say, ‘Listen, I have to be responsible for myself’.”
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